People often start into the divorce process with a sense of fear and failure. Because of the emotional pain that occurs during divorce, many people facing the divorce process take on the belief that the future will me bad and that the misery will continue to grow in to the future. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. To start on your road to happiness you need to change the way you think about yourself and your future. Here are some tips for moving on to your new life of happiness.
Avoid a combative divorce
You and your spouse have choices on how you want to get divorced. Avoid the temptation to battle with your spouse in court and fight on every last issue. If possible, choose a divorce process like collaborative divorce or mediation that will allow you to divorce with dignity and have better relations with your ex going into the future. By taking a less combative approach you will be poised to move on with your new life with less bitterness and regret.
Gratitude is the key
Divorce is a time of loss. You are separating emotionally from a person that you were once very much in love with . This separation process is painful and it is important that you take time to feel the sense of loss and grieve. However, lingering on the grief is a recipe for ongoing sadness as you move on with your new life. During the divorce process, it is very important to focus on being grateful for the things that are good in your life. And to be thankful that you now have an opportunity to build a better life. Tip: Wake up every morning and list five this you are grateful for.
Embrace your past
The process of disconnecting form your spouse is painful. And initially, many people feel that their life is a complete failure as a result of the divorce. In most cases this is just not true. When it comes to divorce it is important to embrace your past and look at all the positive things that occurred during life together with your former spouse. If you can look back objectively you may realize that there were many good times with your spouse and the experiences you shared, good and bad, helped you to become the person you are today.
Focus on the future
The people that make the best transitions from their marriage to single life, tend to focus on the future. One of the biggest benefits of divorce is that you now have complete freedom to choose how you are going to live the rest of your life. Set goals and develop a life plan that is inspirational. Every day make a conscious effort to focus your thoughts on your new life plan and avoid thoughts about perceived past failures.
Look forward. Life is short. Right from the start focus all your thoughts on building a new life that will bring you happiness.